They don't understand

Many people don't understand my way of reacting when it comes to an argument.
"Speak up for yourself if you think you're right", they say.
"I am not good at words",
"I am a chicken/coward",
"I do not want to worsen the situation" are always what I say.

Not fighting for myself simply means I am trying to create a win-win situation.
Not so much of a winning on my side but if the end result makes the other party happy, I call it WIN.

How is that when you argue with your loved ones/close friends/family members,
you assumed them to take all your words, regardless whether it's harsh or cruel.
Human are impulsive, especially when you trigger their anger.
Words they use to express themselves, may not mean too much to them because they're blinded.
To the other party, it'll be like a stab into their heart and the scar remains.
What everyone is not aware of is that later when they say,
"I don't remember what I said".
It doesn't mean the other party will forget, It's a scar you carved into their heart.
A million times apology will not heal it and never would it.

Always remember, regardless of how fucked up the situation is..
Think twice before you say anything, you might just hurt someone, or anyone.